The True Meaning of Joy

A few weeks ago, I was interviewed on the Your Cup Of Joy podcast. Interestingly, this happened right after a holiday that commands us to feel joy.

For those who don’t know, I am naturally rebellious. I’ve always struggled with the concept of dogmatic joy—especially when I found myself sitting alone in the sukkah, exhausted from the holidays.

But this year, I had an epiphany about joy.

I realized that joy isn’t about forcing happiness or pretending everything is perfect. Instead, it is a container—holding gratitude, deep acceptance of reality, courage to grow, a willingness to see things differently, an appreciation for what we have, and a positive perspective. It is warm, nourishing, and rooted in the ability to both give and receive—whether that be time, money, or compassion.

For so long, I mistook joy for a Pollyanna, rose-colored day at Disneyland.

As we approach Thanksgiving, I recognize a similar experience. While there is no commandment to feel joy on this holiday, I have often encountered a spectrum of emotions surrounding it.

But this year, I am feeling true joy—not because things are perfect, but because I no longer expect or desire anything or anyone to be different than they are in this moment. I am filled with the whole enchilada.

I love you all, and may we continue to have health, wealth, happiness, and family to celebrate with.

Rabbi Cantor Judy Greenfeld